On Tuesday nights my wife and I play a game together of some sort. Cards, Yahtzee, strategy type games, as long as it’s fun and can be played by two people we will do it. One of the things I’ve noticed though is that, even though we both consider this to be special time just for the two of us to connect with each other we never have our phones too far. When there is a lull in the action one or both of us will be looking at something on facebook, or checking something on Google, we have those phones near us like they are somehow sustaining our lives.

It makes me wonder just how much this happens in my life.

Like watching a movie, now that I have a smart phone I can easily get on IMDB and read interesting tidbits about the movie I am currently watching.

I canĀ  place my earbuds in and fire up songza on my walk, cause God knows the sounds of actual nature are not enough to make me forget I am working out right?

First thing I do when I wake up? I check in on Facebook. Just in case I missed an important update at 3 in the morning.

What is the name of this song I am hearing in my car? Fire up Soundhound and you can find out.

Everywhere I go, everything thing I find myself doing is always accompanied by the little palm sized computer that we are calling phones these days.

I’m guilty of this and it bugs me.

I don’t feel like I am engaged in the relationships and happenings of my day to day enough.

It’s really easy for me, an autistic person who has trouble with people, to find excuses to cast my eyes downward on my phone.

I use the same excuse for my phone checking that I used to use when telling people I didn’t want to take naps, I was afraid I was going to miss out on something. That’s why I enjoy social media so much right? Because it allows me the chance to never miss out!

Yet the more I see this as a problem the more I am convinced that I AM missing out. I am missing out big time. I mean we can’t even just enjoy a movie anymore, the story, the characters, the camera work. We have to read about the movie while we are watching it.

A couple months ago I took a fast from Social Media and there was a a part of me that felt like I was indeed missing out but there was another part of me that felt more connected than I ever do while I am on social media.

I am not saying that social media is bad, it’;s not it’s a great tool and it’s awesome to be able to connect with so many people but call me crazy I might just start turning off my phone a lot more. Spending more time in the moments that life offers instead of watching pixels on a screen

I think that’s how God intended life to play out, in the present, in community, with other people who are actually in the same room as us.

I hope we don’t forget how to do that or what it means.